Archive for February, 2010

Sunday Search Terms

I’m most curious about sex femme gymnastics. Haha.


Arizona Girls

I spend the last few days visiting a graduate program in Arizona.

On the flight home, I was seated next to two (male) prospective PhD students in engineering. We were talking about how beautiful the campus was and how much we liked the professors.

“Everyone was really friendly,” I said. “Maybe it’s the constant sunshine.”

“Yeah, and most importantly, those Arizona girls were hot,” one of the men said.

Ye-ah, I like that they seem to be competing for who can wear the least clothes around campus,” the other added.

Half-naked girls. The most important part of any graduate school decision.

The Medicalization of “Female Sexual Dysfunction”

While at Arizona State University’s Gender Studies Graduate Association’s conference, I attended a panel entitled “On Bodies Inhabiting Clinical, Natural, and In-between Spaces.” One of the presenters explored the issues surrounding medicalization of female and male sexual dysfunctions. While the presentation and the argument needed some work, it got me thinking.

According to the Mayo Clinic:

“If you have persistent or recurrent problems with sexual response — and if these problems are making you distressed or straining your relationship with your partner — what you’re experiencing is known medically as female sexual dysfunction (FSD).”

So what are the symptoms? Once again, according to the Mayo Clinic:

“Your problems might be classified as female sexual dysfunction if you experience one or more of the following and you’re distressed about it:

  • Your desire to have sex is low or absent.
  • You can’t maintain arousal during sexual activity, or you don’t become aroused despite a desire to have sex.
  • You cannot experience an orgasm.
  • You have pain during sexual contact.”

Possible causes include physical conditions (arthritis, urinary/bowel difficulties, pelvic surgery, fatigue, headaches, pain problems, neurological disorders, medications that decrease sex drive and ability to achieve orgasm), hormones (menopause, post-childbirth, breastfeeding), and psychological and social conditions (untreated anxiety or depression, stress, worries of pregnancy, conflicts with partner, cultural and religious issues, body image).

Got that? Pretty much anything can cause sexual dysfunction in women. For men, sexual dysfunction is simple. Can you get it up? Of course, for men the physical ability to penetrate is often closely tied with their virility and masculinity. However, for women, sexual dysfunction, as defined by the medical community, includes low sex drive, arousal difficulty, inability to orgasm, and pain.

Much of the presentation revolved around the lack of a “pink Viagra,” or the fact that there is no medical miracle drug for women with “sexual dysfunction.” Instead, the speaker presented the NuGyn™ Eros Therapy device, the first FDA approved product for women who suffer from arousal and orgasmic disorders.

Eros therapy device

How does this work? Well, according to the website, “it is a small, hand-held medical device that uses a gentle vacuum to improve your sexual responses by increasing blood flow to the clitoris and external genitalia.” It is recommended that you use the Eros Therapy device either prior to having intercourse or therapeutically without intercourse.

It costs $395.00 and requires a doctor’s prescription.

On the one hand, this is really cool. The medical community is (finally) recognizing women’s need for sexual satisfaction. Women will know that they are not alone, and that other women experience similar difficulties. Sexual problems can be explained as a genuine medical problem. Hell, some health insurance providers will even cover the cost of the Eros Therapy device.

However, I am not sure how Eros differs from other vacuum sex toys that have been on the market for many years, although I suppose it provides a socially acceptable alternatives for women who would never step in a sex store.

Clitoral Pump, $26.99 at Eden Fantasys

Playgirls signature pump n' please, $26.99 at Eden Fantasys

Additionally, the medicalization of FSD and the Eros therapy device seem centered around the notion of penetrative sex. If a woman doesn’t experience sexual pleasure while engaging in penetrative sex with a male partner, something is wrong with her.

Let’s look at the four symptoms again:

  1. “Your desire to have sex is low or absent.” According to the Eros website, the increased blood flow to the genital area may result in increased clitoral and genital sensitivity, improved lubrication, improved ability to achieve orgasm, and ultimately increased overall sexual satisfaction. However, it is not going to make up for a unattractive partner, a stressful life, or the exhaustion of raising children and working full time. While it might aid in physical desire, it’s not going to cause mental desire, although thinking about sex more may eventually cause more desire.
  2. “You can’t maintain arousal during sexual activity, or you don’t become aroused despite a desire to have sex.” This happens, yes, and may be due to prescription medications or hormonal changes. It could also be that the sexual activity a woman is not engaging in activity that feels good, or she has not had sufficient foreplay (physical or mental) prior to engaging in sex. Women’s sexual response may develop slower or less apparent that men’s, but that doesn’t always mean something is wrong.
  3. “You cannot experience an orgasm.” Many women do not experience orgasms from penis-in-vagina sex, because they do not get the clitoral stimulation they need. Perhaps, we should be looking at what sort of sexual activities women find pleasing. Manual stimulation, maybe? Oral sex, perhaps? A combination of one or both of the above, with or without penetration? The Eros device draws blood to the genitals, making them more sensitive, as does any other form of arousal. It seems the ultimate solution may be learning one’s own body and educating one’s sexual partners(s). Eros might help with that, but it surely isn’t the only solution.
  4. “You have pain during sexual contact.” There are a couple of issues with this one, and pain can be a result of multiple causes. If the problem is insufficient natural lubrication, perhaps some lube is the solution. Lube is good. It’s always good. Even if you have sufficient natural lube, extra lube makes it better. If the problem is involuntary spasms of the vaginal muscles (vaginismus), gradual dilation may be necessary. If that problem is insufficient attention to the woman’s pleasure, then it is a relationship issue.

I think it is good that the medical community is recognizing female sexual pleasure as a valid concern. However, I am not sure a medical diagnosis and a fancy sex toy is the solution. The broad definition of FSD suggests that most women are inherently disordered. Has any woman not experienced one or more of these symptoms coupled with a distress about their sexual experiences? The quoted statistic is that 43% of women experience FSD at some point in their life. If so many people have this “disorder,” should it really be considered a disorder. 43% is almost a majority, and I suspect that more people experience symptoms but do not discuss them.

According to the medical definition of FSD, I was disordered before I even turned twenty. At one point, my inability to maintain arousal and reach orgasm was an issue that troubled me and my partner separately, and ultimately our relationship together. There were a couple possible causes, including a medication that I was taking. It was when we stopped worrying about the elusive orgasm, and we spent a lot of time exploring our own and each other’s bodies that these worries disappeared. Fuck, I couldn’t stop cumming, but it took time to get there.

Maybe FSD should not be defined as a disorder. I certainly don’t know everything about sex, but I do know that women have varied sexual reactions and experiences. Male sexual dysfunction is defined by the inability to achieve/maintain erection. Medication can fix that. For women, hormone therapy may enhance sex drive or reverse some effects of menopause. However, the issues of low desire, inability to maintain arousal, inability to achieve orgasm, or pain may well have to do with the types of sex a woman and her partner(s) are having or not having. Before we label women’s sexual experiences as disordered, it seems like we should examine our familiarity with our own bodies and our communication with our partner(s). The disorder may reinforce women’s feeling that there is something wrong with their body, instead of encouraging women to find their own path to pleasure. I fear that FSD is yet another example of medicine based on a male model, forgetting the fact that women may experience sex very differently than men and that, for women, sex can be a complicated experience.

What do you think? Is the diagnosis of FSD a step in the right direction, or does it disorder women’s experience (given that 43% of women- according to statistics- experience symptoms)? Is the Eros a medical breakthrough or a socially acceptable sex toy?  What advice should medical professionals give women who are experiencing sexual difficulties?

Waiting in the Airport with Staceyann Chin

Last night, I saw Staceyann Chin perform.

Right now she is sitting in the same airport as me, about three  rows away, waiting for the same stupid delayed flight. I would go say “hi,” but then I would have to confess that I did not masturbate last night like she demanded of us.

She’s amazing. Bold, yes. A little harsh, yes. Full of attitude, yes. Capable of scaring my dear innocent friend, yes. And fucking amazing!

It’s no secret that I’m a sucker for spoken word. Give me a girl mouthing rhymes, and you’ve got me heart. But I especially applaud her for confronting racial issues in an age where we increasingly claim that “race is irrelevant.” I appreciate that she recognizes the intersectionality of opressions: that you can’t separate poor from black, female from young, gay from immigrant. Oppressions multiply. Equality is a process, not a result.

And most of all, the mainstream GLBT movement is racist. I’m full of white privilege, but this was abundantly clear to me when my half-Mexican,  half-Filipino girlfriend sought leadership positions in GLBT organizations. This is abundently clear to me every time I pick up our local GLBT newspaper, Curve or Out magazine, or The Advocate. I love Staceyann for acknowledging all this, even if it makes people mad. Even if she gets angry letters saying, “I can’t believe you say white people always…,” “I can’t believe you say black people…,” “I can’t believe you talk about…”

She read excerpts from her memoir, “The Other Side of Paradise.” While I’ve only read some of it over the exes shoulder, what I read was touching, telling, and funny. The selections she read last night were amazing. It’s worth checking out.

And I’ll leave you with one of my favorite pieces of hers as I try to build up the courage to say hello.

Sunday Search Terms

Obviously I need to blog about something other than gymnastics.

A Short Olympic Observation + My Mom

Yesterday, I was discussing the Olympics with my mom. Specifically, we were talking about the women’s alpine race and the crashes a few of the athletes took.

She is about to go on a ski trip, and said it made her nervous. I said it made me want to race down a mountain and fly through the air after launching myself off a jump.

And then, my dear, educated mother said, “I just worry about those girls.”

There we go, women athletes can’t be athletes and they can’t be women. They are simply girls who need to be protected.

A Short Olympic Observation

While watching the Women’s Alpine Ski competition on NBC this evening, I noticed the announcers (names anyone?), referring to the athletes as girls.

Curious, I pulled out a piece of paper.

From 9:18 EST until the end of the women’s ski competition, the athletes were called “girl/girls” five times and “woman/women” three times.

That broadcast was then followed by men’s speed-skating and snowboard half-pipe. Never once were those athletes called “boys.”

I realize this is an observation based on limited data. I’m curious what you have observed in the Olympic coverage available in your area, especially if you are out of the United States.